It's very personal to me. I was sixteen, unwed and pregnant. My parents said, "We've made an appointment to get an abortion." I said, "No."
I was threatened, "We won't help you," and they also tried intellectual and emotional reasoning, "You won't get to go to college, you won't get to graduate high school, you won't get a new car, you won't get to go to Hawaii, you will have to get a job and support this baby!" They made it clear, life would change.
My boyfriend also pushed me to get an abortion, he actually ended our relationship because I refused.
I didn't have anyone on my side.
However, I stood my ground and no amount of threats or reasoning could change my mind.
I was raised in a lower middle class family, I was well read and intelligent except (obviously) in sex education. My mother had asked if I was having sex, and we went to put me on the pill only to discover I was already a few weeks pregnant.
I was not raised in a religious atmosphere, so why did I refuse? Why did I rebel?
I knew it was wrong to take a life and I knew that taking a life would harm and possibly destroy me.
It was not long after that battle that my parents lost their eldest child in a car accident. Their 'only' comfort during that time was my two year daughter they had thought I should "get rid of so I could enjoy my life."
There are few things that can raise my blood pressure as much as the issue of abortion. I have refused to go with friends who could not be talked out of it. I have mercy and I have compassion for them but ultimately I find their behavior irresponsible and dangerous.
If a drunk goes out and drives and kills someone, he is sent to prison. If a drunk goes out and creates a baby and then kills it, it's accepted as their right.
I'm not saying only drunks act irresponsible, some do it just because they don't care. Women who do not protect themselves from getting pregnant, then turn around and say, "It's my body, it's my right," are in conflict. They are having a war within themselves and need help. If you do not protect yourself from getting pregnant and then turn around and destroy a life, do you truly feel that you are taking care of yourselves?
I've questioned this for years and I have tried to find a way to argue for those who feel they must have an abortion, the way I was taught in college to argue for and against something. Abortion was something they would not allow us to discuss in college because it caused so much emotion and passion in people.
When I read about small children beaten to death, abused and neglected I do question if abortion isn't the lesser of two evils. For me all children deserve the right to live and be loved. My issue is with women who negligently and irresponsibly get pregnant in the first place - especially with all the birth control available in so many forms. I just don't understand WHY women don't get an implant or some type of birth control to protect themselves and why women who know they never want kids don't get a tubal to prevent pregnancy.
It's not that I think women should have children that they do not want, it's that I think they should Do Something to Prevent a Pregnancy and Abortion in the first place. 50 million plus accidents/mistakes is insanity and its demeaning to all women.
I am not writing with the idea that I will STOP people from having abortions, you have my opinions and thoughts as well as why I personally didn't do it.
I am here to ENCOURAGE women to STOP abortions by using birth control. Stop abortions by thinking before you act, by controlling yourself, by being responsible and caring towards your own body and mind. Don't RISK it, Don't Take A Chance.
Teach your children to think critically, to respect themselves and life.
I read about a daughter whose mother coerced and cajoled her into getting an abortion. The mother hated the boyfriend. She used all the same arguments and reasoning my parents used, "You won't be able to have your life if you have this baby in it." The daughter did what her mother said and the guilt consumed her. When the mother interfered again and demanded the daughter stop seeing her boyfriend, the daughter realized who it was that was actually blocking her ability to live her life. She murdered her mother.
There were many who saw this as the worst evil - matricide. For a child to take a parents life, especially their mother's, the woman who gave her life. Ironic isn't it?
But I saw that it was what her mother had taught her. If someone is in your way, get rid of them-kill them.
Was it really any different for the child to kill the parent than it was for the parent to demand the child kill her child? When we teach children to discriminate, judge, hate or kill, we live in danger of that teaching being used against us.
We may see many more of these retributive acts upon parents after 40 years of abortions resulting in over 50 million deaths.
Have you ever questioned why the Gov't doesn't stop you from taking a life? It's not because they care about you or your rights. Abortion is population control for those they believe are ignorant and unable to control themselves- two things that society does not find conducive to progress or desirable to be reproduced.
If you get pregnant and then have an abortion, you reveal several things to other people. You have little value for life, you are not responsible, you are negligent, you do not think highly of your abilities, you do not control your desires but you can be controlled by others and you prefer immediate gratification.
We see the well dressed women standing up for Women's Rights to have an Abortion and they look so successful in their suits. Perhaps you imagine yourself as one of them. Few of them if any have actually had an abortion. They support abortion because politically it's part of their platform, not because they care about your rights or your life.
We are a nation that declares it helps other people in other countries - refugee and orphan children because we have compassion and we are "good" people. Yet, we kill thousands everyday in our War upon Wombs saying it's a Right and it's their Body. But, I will never stop thinking that the body within that womb is not yours to kill, that it's man-slaughter. It's the same thing that happens when someone drives recklessly and kills someone. It's the same thing as when someone is negligent - and kills someone. Every person in the world is expected to behave responsibly and to control themselves and try to avoid accidents - except women who have unprotected sex. For women - it's a free pass to commit murder without going to prison.
In my opinion, the punishment for those who willfully, continually and belligerently continue to have Womb Accidents - there should be 5 yrs, 10yrs mandatory birth control device implanted into their arms.
It will save lives, it will save minds, and it will save souls. Maybe women can learn by having control taken away how important it is to protect and take care of their bodies by using contraceptives. Those who claim contraceptives are dangerous, may be in for a big surprise at the mental devastation they inflict upon themselves by having an abortion. Above all I pray that all women learn to respect life even in its tiniest form.
My child, a daughter that I refused to abort despite very strong opposition from all directions became my greatest blessing and still is after 35 years of having her in my life. I have never once regretted my decision to give her life, not for even a second. ❤️
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